Here are three tips to approach women:
1- Tease her
When you first meet a woman, tease her about something. Anything. It doesn't matter what it is, just as long as you do it early on to get her attention.
For instance, you might say: "So what's with the big purse? Are you carrying a gun in there?" Or maybe, "Those are some pretty tall shoes, what are you, like, 4' tall without them?" Whatever. The fact is, if you tease a woman right off the bat, it immediately shows that you're not a Wuss, and that you like to have fun. This is huge.
But whatever you do, make sure that what you say is actually funny, or you'll come off looking like a bigger dork than you would have otherwise.
2- Be "cool"
After you start talking to her, look around at other things; try to seem kind of preoccupied. In other words, be cool, loose and relaxed, always making your funny remarks with a totally carefree, detached tone. Basically, you want to sound as comfortable as when you're talking to your best friend. This confident, in-control attitude is very attractive to all women -- especially when it's perfectly combined with humor.
3- Take control
The fastest way to do this is by never asking (or answering) any direct questions. To keep the suspense and intrigue building, let her do all the asking -- and be prepared with answers.
Odds are she'll hit you with something like: "What do you do?" or, "Where do you live?" or even, "Tell me about your family," so have funny answers in your back pocket -- answers that never give her exactly the information she wants.
Most guys say, "Oh, I'm an engineer," or "I'm a stock broker." Boring. This is a total conversation (and attraction) killer.
If she asks what you do, say something like, "Oh, funny you should ask. I'm a Calvin Klein underwear model."
Bottom line: Keep up the mystery, stay confident and, above all, keep her laughing.
11/29/2010
11/25/2010
14 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Happy
Here are the tips that I found to be the most effective. Take some time and read through these to find ideas to keep your relationship happy.
1. Take showers together- it doesn’t have to be sexual! My husband and I have done this from the beginning of our relationship, did it start out sexual? Probably. But over time it became an intimate thing, just extra time that we can spend together catching up on the day- it just happens that we are naked and in the shower!
2. Go to the park and swing, slide or just play-it’s a young and fun thing to do. It keeps you playful and is a great way to relieve stress. Real life can get so with overwhelming with work, kids, bills, laundry, chores- sometimes a play break is what’s needed to alleviate all of that, even if it’s only for half an hour.
3. Take walks-morning walks are a great way to start your day, not a morning person? Take an evening walk. Getting fresh air and exercise together is good for your health and the health of your relationship. Walking relieves stress, keeps you fit and allows quality time to be spent together.
4. Date nights-put everything on hold for an hour or two and plan on just doing something alone with your spouse. It can be dinner, a walk, the mall, whatever, just make the time for just the two of you with no one else around, catch up on your day or week or just joke around and have fun. But making time for just the two of you is important.
5. Play video games or wrestle-a healthy dose of competition is always good and it can be an entertaining way to not only have fun but a great stress buster as well. Just don’t take it too seriously and be a sore loser because that would defeat the whole purpose.
6. Have sex-even if you don’t want to, you need to keep the sexual chemistry between you and your significant other alive. Being intimate and showing your love for one another is a significant part of your union
7. Have time apart-couples don’t need to spend 24/7 together. Spending time away with the girls or the guys makes you appreciate one another. Have your own lives apart from one another. Schedule dinners or mini vacations if you can to keep up with friends.
8. Hold hands- it may seem insignificant; however, this small but intimate gesture shows that you care about each other even when you are doing something simple like walking from the car to the grocery store.
9. Give praise-telling your significant other that they are great at something can be a huge ego boost. It shows that you care and that you pay attention and like the way he/she does something. It's always nice to know that your spouse appreciates the things you do and the way you do them.
10. Be thankful-a simple thank you for taking the trash out, taking the kids to school, fixing that faucet or simply being a great spouse goes a long way. Letting someone know that you are thankful for what they do means a lot.
11. Have time apart-couples don't need to spend 24/7 together. Spending time away with the girls or the guys makes you appreciate one another. Have your own lives apart from one another. Schedule dinners or mini vacations if you can to keep up with friends.
12. Don't always nag-if you start nagging too much you will create resentment. Reminding someone of something a few times is one thing but becoming obnoxious about it will produce hostility and that's not the outcome that you are looking for. Take a different approach, ask nicely, explain what you need done and by when. The nicer you are the better.
13. Share advice-you never know when great, unexpected advice can come about. My husband and I work in two totally different professions yet we manage to swap advice on work all the time. The advice does not have to be work related, it can be about the kids, the chores, money management, it doesn't matter, be open to sharing different ideas.
14. Pick and choose your battles-Over the years I have learned that life is short and arguments are lame. Now I only get mad at things that I feel are truly important. I've learned to pick and choose my battles. Everyone will have that one battle that they choose to fight, just choose it carefully. Just think "is this really worth getting mad about? Will I still be mad about it this tomorrow morning? Will I even remember this next week?" Most of the time the answer is no. I've learned that this approach makes for a healthier and happier relationship and definitely causes less stress.
11/24/2010
How To Write Personal Ads
Put together a description that will attract your type
Writing personal ads should be considered an art in its own right. For decades personal ads have appeared in magazines and newspapers all over the world, and for decades people have struggled to describe themselves in 25 words or less. It is difficult, impossible really, to fully sum up one's essence in just a few lines, including likes, dislikes, interests and goals. These days the top quality dating sites offer more sophisticated personal ads, which are usually called profiles. Unlike the older personal ads in newspapers, modern profiles are detailed and in-depth and often help the user to build his or her description by taking a test or answering a series of questions. Even though describing yourself to a virtual stranger will always be difficult, making a free profile and getting yourself in the dating scene can be done if you follow our advice.
If you want to get the best of your personal ads membership, try to present the right image and get people to interact with you by chatting daily, make note of these 10 personal ad tips:
1. An obvious one - complete your personal ad profile fully. And accurately! There is nothing worse for a browsing member than spending their quality time opening your profile only to find your profile is full of Ask Me statements. So ... Be informative, be complete, be thorough, be interesting.
2. Add a photograph or two or even four! Amazingly, members with photos in their personal ads are likely to get up to 9 times more replies than members without any photo image attached to their profile. Okay, so even if we aren't all photogenic models, any photo is far better than none at all.
3. Don't be aggressive or rude in personal ads. It may be your sense of humor to be sarcastic or cutting, but it doesn't always come across best in anonymous text. Biting humor in the first instance will not usually attract the desired attention, even if it's meant to be amusing. That comes once you are chatting face to face.
You may have had a bad experience with a previous partner, but making a list of specific criteria a future partner must meet usually has the effect of making people look elsewhere. Even if they match! We all seek Mr. and Miss Right, but turning dating into a job interview removes every ounce of romance and passion from the occasion.
4. No matter how you speak in your day-to-day life, don't use swear or curse words in your profile, personal ad, conversations or emails! They are generally offensive and turn people off. Again, swearing is like sarcasm -- people may find your colorful language charming in face-to-face conversations, but without context your cursing may make you seem uneducated or angry.
5. Make your personal ad truthful above all things, but also emphasize your best characteristics. Admitting that you are a loner who has no friends will not win you many admirers, but emphasizing that you are a true individual will. Learning to sell yourself a bit without exaggerating is your best bet.
6. If you really feel passionate about something say so, don't try and hide the things that are important to you. If you love partying say so, if your religion is important to you, say so. Be yourself, and be upfront with who you are.
7. Do not pretend that you are willing to fly half way round the world to meet someone if you are not. It's not fair to anyone including you. If you are really only looking for someone in your state or close to home then stick with that and make it clear.
8. Always try and reply to people's messages and reply in a reasonable amount of time, not weeks later. If you are serious about dating, you are serious about replying to personal messages. Give people the ability to move on to other potential partners if you are not interested. Conversely, don't email someone weeks later and not expect that they haven't written you off!
9. Be positive! The more you project a friendly and positive attitude, the more likely people are going to be attracted to you. Smile in your photo and be inviting in your chats and comments. People who seem bitter, negative or conceited push others away -- people on dating websites are often sensitive to rejection, so who would want to take a chance getting to know someone who may end up being cruel or mean?
10. Be patient, it takes time to find someone special using personal ads but it does work. After all, it's just that one special person that you wish to meet. Sometimes you need to chat to quite a few people first. Know that the missteps and fizzles in chemistry are part of the process. Take your time to complete your personal ads, take your time to chat with many different people, and take your time to get to know someone well. It's all part of moving toward the day when you find that special someone.
Writing personal ads should be considered an art in its own right. For decades personal ads have appeared in magazines and newspapers all over the world, and for decades people have struggled to describe themselves in 25 words or less. It is difficult, impossible really, to fully sum up one's essence in just a few lines, including likes, dislikes, interests and goals. These days the top quality dating sites offer more sophisticated personal ads, which are usually called profiles. Unlike the older personal ads in newspapers, modern profiles are detailed and in-depth and often help the user to build his or her description by taking a test or answering a series of questions. Even though describing yourself to a virtual stranger will always be difficult, making a free profile and getting yourself in the dating scene can be done if you follow our advice.
If you want to get the best of your personal ads membership, try to present the right image and get people to interact with you by chatting daily, make note of these 10 personal ad tips:
1. An obvious one - complete your personal ad profile fully. And accurately! There is nothing worse for a browsing member than spending their quality time opening your profile only to find your profile is full of Ask Me statements. So ... Be informative, be complete, be thorough, be interesting.
2. Add a photograph or two or even four! Amazingly, members with photos in their personal ads are likely to get up to 9 times more replies than members without any photo image attached to their profile. Okay, so even if we aren't all photogenic models, any photo is far better than none at all.
3. Don't be aggressive or rude in personal ads. It may be your sense of humor to be sarcastic or cutting, but it doesn't always come across best in anonymous text. Biting humor in the first instance will not usually attract the desired attention, even if it's meant to be amusing. That comes once you are chatting face to face.
You may have had a bad experience with a previous partner, but making a list of specific criteria a future partner must meet usually has the effect of making people look elsewhere. Even if they match! We all seek Mr. and Miss Right, but turning dating into a job interview removes every ounce of romance and passion from the occasion.
4. No matter how you speak in your day-to-day life, don't use swear or curse words in your profile, personal ad, conversations or emails! They are generally offensive and turn people off. Again, swearing is like sarcasm -- people may find your colorful language charming in face-to-face conversations, but without context your cursing may make you seem uneducated or angry.
5. Make your personal ad truthful above all things, but also emphasize your best characteristics. Admitting that you are a loner who has no friends will not win you many admirers, but emphasizing that you are a true individual will. Learning to sell yourself a bit without exaggerating is your best bet.
6. If you really feel passionate about something say so, don't try and hide the things that are important to you. If you love partying say so, if your religion is important to you, say so. Be yourself, and be upfront with who you are.
7. Do not pretend that you are willing to fly half way round the world to meet someone if you are not. It's not fair to anyone including you. If you are really only looking for someone in your state or close to home then stick with that and make it clear.
8. Always try and reply to people's messages and reply in a reasonable amount of time, not weeks later. If you are serious about dating, you are serious about replying to personal messages. Give people the ability to move on to other potential partners if you are not interested. Conversely, don't email someone weeks later and not expect that they haven't written you off!
9. Be positive! The more you project a friendly and positive attitude, the more likely people are going to be attracted to you. Smile in your photo and be inviting in your chats and comments. People who seem bitter, negative or conceited push others away -- people on dating websites are often sensitive to rejection, so who would want to take a chance getting to know someone who may end up being cruel or mean?
10. Be patient, it takes time to find someone special using personal ads but it does work. After all, it's just that one special person that you wish to meet. Sometimes you need to chat to quite a few people first. Know that the missteps and fizzles in chemistry are part of the process. Take your time to complete your personal ads, take your time to chat with many different people, and take your time to get to know someone well. It's all part of moving toward the day when you find that special someone.
11/22/2010
What to buy your sweetheart for Christmas
Coming up with the perfect Christmas present for your significant other can be daunting, especially when you've been dating such a short time that you're not quite familiar with the eccentricities of his or her music taste but you still want to impress with an unexpectedly thoughtful and insightful gift that will buy you a few more weeks, at least.
Flowers and chocolates, a la Valentine's Day, are very sweet, but they pretty much prove you don't know your honey at all, unless she's super into exotic buds or something. If you don't happen to be dating a horticulturist, don't go this route. Here's a quick-and-dirty list of our top picks for new couples:
A book -- Unless your lover is an English major, you probably can't go wrong with a classic that has something to do with romance. Go with "The Unbearable Lightness of Being" or "Love in Time of Cholera." It gives you the perfect chance to hint at your deeper, tortured, artistic side, and you get to write a sappy inscription. (Hint: If you haven't read the book, stay away from comparing you and your sweetie to the characters. Fiction authors are not to be trusted with your relationship.)
A soulful hits compilation -- Even if it's not his style, no one is going to balk at a sexy collection of slow-danceable love songs (at least not to your face). It gives the two of you a chance to get close, and if the cheese factor is over the top, y'all can laugh about it together and then put on something good.
Massage oil -- Ok, you might want to be careful with this one, but if you play your cards right, it’s a great gift. If you're ready to take things to the next level, it implies that it's time to get physical. If you're not, this present can come off as a little presumptuous, but you can always backtrack and offer up a neck-and-shoulder massage to smooth things over.
No matter what gift you go with, the fact that you're putting some effort into it bodes well for the future of your union. Don't be afraid to dive in and find something your new love will really like -- just take our advice and stay away from gift cards!
Flowers and chocolates, a la Valentine's Day, are very sweet, but they pretty much prove you don't know your honey at all, unless she's super into exotic buds or something. If you don't happen to be dating a horticulturist, don't go this route. Here's a quick-and-dirty list of our top picks for new couples:
A book -- Unless your lover is an English major, you probably can't go wrong with a classic that has something to do with romance. Go with "The Unbearable Lightness of Being" or "Love in Time of Cholera." It gives you the perfect chance to hint at your deeper, tortured, artistic side, and you get to write a sappy inscription. (Hint: If you haven't read the book, stay away from comparing you and your sweetie to the characters. Fiction authors are not to be trusted with your relationship.)
A soulful hits compilation -- Even if it's not his style, no one is going to balk at a sexy collection of slow-danceable love songs (at least not to your face). It gives the two of you a chance to get close, and if the cheese factor is over the top, y'all can laugh about it together and then put on something good.
Massage oil -- Ok, you might want to be careful with this one, but if you play your cards right, it’s a great gift. If you're ready to take things to the next level, it implies that it's time to get physical. If you're not, this present can come off as a little presumptuous, but you can always backtrack and offer up a neck-and-shoulder massage to smooth things over.
No matter what gift you go with, the fact that you're putting some effort into it bodes well for the future of your union. Don't be afraid to dive in and find something your new love will really like -- just take our advice and stay away from gift cards!
11/19/2010
The Two Pivotal Things You Need To Get Right When Dating Guys
The first date with a guy is actually set up the first time you meet him.
What I mean by this is that in your early conversations you want to be creating all kinds of different opportunities that makes it easier to suggest a date later on. For example, you drop a hint: “I haven’t been to the zoo in ages. I really want to go!” This makes it easy for him or you to bring it up later, instead of it sounding strange and out of the blue.
A. Contacting him
Some women are terrified of ever contacting a guy first; but it’s okay to initiate things. Just don’t overwhelm someone with essay-long texts everyday.
No more bland texts e.g. “Hey, I’m so bored, what u up to?”
- This is dull and value seeking. Better to tell him something interesting you found out related to a conversation you had earlier, or just send him a one off text about a place you talked about.
Don’t be afraid to send texts that just make statements
e.g. “I just realized who you remind me of…” then tell him anyone you like, as long as you can relate it to his personality or looks (even if it’s a Harry Potter character, or an actor, or a cartoon character). Texts like this build intrigue without saying too much.
So if he asks you why he reminds you of that person, you can just say something like “Because of his cheeky smile”.
Use texts to arrange quick dates
- Remember, you can arrange low-pressure dates on your terms e.g. “Hey, I’m gonna go check out (x) today with some friends. You should come along if you’re about…. x”. If he can’t make it, he’ll re-arrange to do something else.
B. The first date and beyond
A couple of quick rules for first dates: No more talking about insecurities/past relationships
Think “why” instead of “what”
- In other words, go into more interesting areas of conversation. If he has a piercing, ask him why he got it. If he tells you he likes tennis, ask him if it’s because he prefers solo sports rather than team games. Ask him about his dream job and why he would love to do it.
Future, not past
- The more excitedly you talk about your future and plans; the more he’s going to want to be a part of that future.
Get him talking about what he really loves
- Get into each other’s passions. It will make for much more exciting conversation and he’ll feel closer to you afterwards.
What I mean by this is that in your early conversations you want to be creating all kinds of different opportunities that makes it easier to suggest a date later on. For example, you drop a hint: “I haven’t been to the zoo in ages. I really want to go!” This makes it easy for him or you to bring it up later, instead of it sounding strange and out of the blue.
A. Contacting him
Some women are terrified of ever contacting a guy first; but it’s okay to initiate things. Just don’t overwhelm someone with essay-long texts everyday.
No more bland texts e.g. “Hey, I’m so bored, what u up to?”
- This is dull and value seeking. Better to tell him something interesting you found out related to a conversation you had earlier, or just send him a one off text about a place you talked about.
Don’t be afraid to send texts that just make statements
e.g. “I just realized who you remind me of…” then tell him anyone you like, as long as you can relate it to his personality or looks (even if it’s a Harry Potter character, or an actor, or a cartoon character). Texts like this build intrigue without saying too much.
So if he asks you why he reminds you of that person, you can just say something like “Because of his cheeky smile”.
Use texts to arrange quick dates
- Remember, you can arrange low-pressure dates on your terms e.g. “Hey, I’m gonna go check out (x) today with some friends. You should come along if you’re about…. x”. If he can’t make it, he’ll re-arrange to do something else.
B. The first date and beyond
A couple of quick rules for first dates: No more talking about insecurities/past relationships
Think “why” instead of “what”
- In other words, go into more interesting areas of conversation. If he has a piercing, ask him why he got it. If he tells you he likes tennis, ask him if it’s because he prefers solo sports rather than team games. Ask him about his dream job and why he would love to do it.
Future, not past
- The more excitedly you talk about your future and plans; the more he’s going to want to be a part of that future.
Get him talking about what he really loves
- Get into each other’s passions. It will make for much more exciting conversation and he’ll feel closer to you afterwards.
11/18/2010
Dating a best friends ex?
In the dating world, there are several rules that aren't discussed openly. Whether or not you can date your best friend's ex falls into this category of tricky dating questions.
If there were a black and white answer, it would be no. However, there are unique circumstances where it may be okay to date your best friend's ex. They are:
- Your best friend has said clearly, "I don't care if you date my ex," and you truly believe they meant it.
- You asked your best friend if it was okay for you to date their ex, and they replied in the affirmative.
- Their history as ex boyfriend and/or girlfriend is now longer than their actual relationship.
- Your best friend is dating someone else seriously and it's obvious they are over the ex in question.
If there were a black and white answer, it would be no. However, there are unique circumstances where it may be okay to date your best friend's ex. They are:
- Your best friend has said clearly, "I don't care if you date my ex," and you truly believe they meant it.
- You asked your best friend if it was okay for you to date their ex, and they replied in the affirmative.
- Their history as ex boyfriend and/or girlfriend is now longer than their actual relationship.
- Your best friend is dating someone else seriously and it's obvious they are over the ex in question.
11/17/2010
Things never to tell your girlfriend
Open & Honest Is Not Always the KeyWhen you are dating someone it is easy to become very comfortable with being around them. However, it is a little too easy to become a little too comfortable. Once this happens, a guy will start saying or doing things that will turn the slightest wrong words into the biggest argument. Because relationships are based on more than just words, and honesty is as important as trust, being too honest can be a man’s biggest downfall.
Just because you are in love, it does not mean that you can just come out and say the first thing that is on your mind. You still have to filter your words, no matter what she says about being honest. There are just some things that you must lie about to keep the peace with your girlfriend, if you ever expect her to become your wife.
The Weight Issue
It is no secret that when two people become comfortable within a relationship that they start gaining weight. Nevertheless, it does not mean you should tell her that you have noticed. In addition, never tell her that she is getting fat. Never tell her that you think she looks like she might be gaining any kind of weight. This could throw her into an unstable emotional state.
Think about this… Guys look at thin women, right? Well, if you talk to her about the weight she is gaining, it might make her think you don’t want to look at her anymore. She will see in her mind that you look at all these perfect women but are telling her she is gaining weight. How do you think it will make her feel?
Forget Your Mother…
…So to speak. Never, ever get into a position to have to say that your mother would have done something different, let alone better. While being a “Mama’s boy” is acceptable these days, it is still too much to tell your girlfriend that your mother is constantly on your mind, let alone how she would do something. This tells your girlfriend that you are thinking about your mother when you should be thinking of her instead. Feel free to make suggestions about doing something a specific way, but do not, under any circumstances, tell her it was your mother’s way of doing things.
Never Criticize
No matter how bad she might mess something up, never criticize her for messing it up. If you are in a situation where something needs to be said, do so but do it in a way that will show her you are just “suggesting’ she do it. Not only will she see you trying to be helpful, but she will not see you not appreciating her.
Keep Family Secrets
Just because your family does not like her or doesn’t get along with her, it doesn’t mean you are obligated to let your girlfriend know. Some family secrets are meant to be kept a secret. Most often is the case that a family might not like your girlfriend at first because they feel she is taking you away from them. However, if the relationship continues long enough, she will grow on them. So is it really necessary to make her feel so insecure about your family needlessly? I didn’t think so.
Just because a relationship is supposed to be open and honest doesn’t mean that a little bit if secrecy will kill it. There are some things that are better off kept as secrets, lest you want a relationship filled with insecurity, doubt and trust issues. If you can keep your lips sealed at the right time, every time then you are sure to have a happy life together.
11/16/2010
Online dating rules to live by: It’s never personal
That headline seems ridiculous, right? I mean, what is dating if not extremely, completely, horrendously, desperately personal? How can you go about searching for the one person that makes your heart feel whole without getting at least a little bit personal?
It seems weird, but when it comes to looking for love online, you need to remember that it's not about you -- at least not for awhile. Most of us who've dipped even a toe into the tepid waters of online dating have felt at certain times that maybe we're just not made for computer-based romance. We're not photogenic enough or we just can't write; our icebreakers keep getting rejected and our winks are never returned.
If you happen to be one of the thousands who isn't having success on the dating sites, you should definitely consider tweaking your profile and having a friend take some pictures that show off your good side. But once you've done that, you need to keep in mind that your digital dry spell is probably temporary. Anyone who's tried out one of the many dating sites knows that luck tends to ebb and flow like the member pool. But most importantly, when someone flakes out on you or makes it clear that they don't share your feelings of attraction, you need to not take it personally.
The truth is, you can't possibly know why that girl isn't interested. Maybe you she hates dogs and you have a boxer. Maybe she's intimidated by your intellectual prowess and professional success. Or maybe she just met someone and wants to see where it goes. No matter what, it ultimately has very little to do with you. And while we're all tempted to decide that it's our massive forehead and clown-like ears, the more likely scenario is that she had something else going on ... or she just wasn't your type anyway.
It seems weird, but when it comes to looking for love online, you need to remember that it's not about you -- at least not for awhile. Most of us who've dipped even a toe into the tepid waters of online dating have felt at certain times that maybe we're just not made for computer-based romance. We're not photogenic enough or we just can't write; our icebreakers keep getting rejected and our winks are never returned.
If you happen to be one of the thousands who isn't having success on the dating sites, you should definitely consider tweaking your profile and having a friend take some pictures that show off your good side. But once you've done that, you need to keep in mind that your digital dry spell is probably temporary. Anyone who's tried out one of the many dating sites knows that luck tends to ebb and flow like the member pool. But most importantly, when someone flakes out on you or makes it clear that they don't share your feelings of attraction, you need to not take it personally.
The truth is, you can't possibly know why that girl isn't interested. Maybe you she hates dogs and you have a boxer. Maybe she's intimidated by your intellectual prowess and professional success. Or maybe she just met someone and wants to see where it goes. No matter what, it ultimately has very little to do with you. And while we're all tempted to decide that it's our massive forehead and clown-like ears, the more likely scenario is that she had something else going on ... or she just wasn't your type anyway.
11/15/2010
Signs that You Are Going to Break Up Soon
We’ve compiled a list of signs that are strong indicators that something in your relationship doesn’t go right.
1. Noticeable change in your partner’s behavior towards you
You can probably feel this when your partner’s behavior has changed. For example, does your partner make eye contact when speaking to you? Does he seem to be distant? How does she act when you meet?
2. Me, Me, Me
When speaking about the two of you, does he use the word “I” instead of “We” often enough? This is one of the mental indicators that he’s not too interested in you and your relationship. People in this case tend to focus on themselves most of the time and start acting too egoistic. If you start feeling that his problems are much more valuable for him than anything else, it’s a warn sign. Probably he’s already made up his mind about the future of your relationship.
3. “I don’t like the way you’re dressed”
Have you heard of any guy in a relationship who will normally say that you should lose a few pounds or that you have no taste in what to wear? Yes, maybe there is one or two but after saying this you can easily indicate that he doesn’t value your relationship. Or, is it the case when he doesn’t show any interest in how you look like? These two opposite sides are the signs that he can be no longer interested in you.
4.I’m a busy guy
In the modern world people are usually busier than they used to be a few years ago. But at the same time this can’t be an excuse if he’s not showing up for long time because “he’s too busy”. And other means of communication like cells, e-mails etc aren’t an excuse. You need to know though, whether he’s really so busy with his job or if he’s hanging out with his friends or spending time on a hobby. All this will make him busy but you’ll easily find out how much interest does he have about you if you find out what he’s really doing.
5. James Bond
Have you ever asked your boyfriend if he works for the CIA? Does he ignore phone calls from other people when you spend time together? Or does he hide his e-mails or close the browser on laptop when you come by? Or has a contact list on his cell full of female names and doesn’t want to explain you who they are? Or doesn’t want to leave open his account on Facebook? Don’t be too suspicious though, or you’ll look like Sherlock Holmes which is also not good.
6. Quarelling
Quarrels are common to almost all relationships. However if you start noticing that the number of fights between the two of you has increased and they’re happening because of trivial matters, this can be a sign that your partner wants to end your relationship. Nobody likes to quarrel, unless there is a need to do so.
7. Sex
This point is arguable and probably depends much on a person but still. When you get into a serious relationship with a person you’ve got feelings to, the sex is usually fantastic. When time passes, the emotional level lowers and it can sometimes happen that one of you is not up to it then. But when you feel that your partner doesn’t have any intention to have sex with you or is indifferent in bed, that’s a huge sign that your relationship comes to an end.
8. Silence
Did it happen earlier, when you started dating, that you can speak hours on anything and could always find a theme to speak on. Does it now look like your partner doesn’t want to share anything with you and only answers on direct questions and just in a few words? Did he use to tell you funny jokes which he now never does? You can answer these questions by simply asking your partner some questions that you know for sure present great interest to him and he used to speak a lot on them.
9. Back to the future
Do you speak about your future plans? Say, like, about start living together or about possible future marriage or just about future holidays. Try to ask your partner about future event you’d like to go to, or plan a day off together and watch the reaction. Does he/she easily agree to your plans or are they constantly postponing the decision until it gets too late?
10. “I need to be alone for some time”
Needless to say more. It’s such a HUGE sign that everything is either already over or will be over soon. Some people get too blinded by affection or love to the person that they can’t understand what this statement really means, when it’s almost shouting to you: “It’s over!” Maybe, the situation is yet not that poor and you can bring the good old times back, but bear in mind that this phrase means that your partner doesn’t like this relationship and already has plans to end it.
That’s it. Never underestimate the power of signs your partner shows in your relationship.
1. Noticeable change in your partner’s behavior towards you
You can probably feel this when your partner’s behavior has changed. For example, does your partner make eye contact when speaking to you? Does he seem to be distant? How does she act when you meet?
2. Me, Me, Me
When speaking about the two of you, does he use the word “I” instead of “We” often enough? This is one of the mental indicators that he’s not too interested in you and your relationship. People in this case tend to focus on themselves most of the time and start acting too egoistic. If you start feeling that his problems are much more valuable for him than anything else, it’s a warn sign. Probably he’s already made up his mind about the future of your relationship.
3. “I don’t like the way you’re dressed”
Have you heard of any guy in a relationship who will normally say that you should lose a few pounds or that you have no taste in what to wear? Yes, maybe there is one or two but after saying this you can easily indicate that he doesn’t value your relationship. Or, is it the case when he doesn’t show any interest in how you look like? These two opposite sides are the signs that he can be no longer interested in you.
4.I’m a busy guy
In the modern world people are usually busier than they used to be a few years ago. But at the same time this can’t be an excuse if he’s not showing up for long time because “he’s too busy”. And other means of communication like cells, e-mails etc aren’t an excuse. You need to know though, whether he’s really so busy with his job or if he’s hanging out with his friends or spending time on a hobby. All this will make him busy but you’ll easily find out how much interest does he have about you if you find out what he’s really doing.
5. James Bond
Have you ever asked your boyfriend if he works for the CIA? Does he ignore phone calls from other people when you spend time together? Or does he hide his e-mails or close the browser on laptop when you come by? Or has a contact list on his cell full of female names and doesn’t want to explain you who they are? Or doesn’t want to leave open his account on Facebook? Don’t be too suspicious though, or you’ll look like Sherlock Holmes which is also not good.
6. Quarelling
Quarrels are common to almost all relationships. However if you start noticing that the number of fights between the two of you has increased and they’re happening because of trivial matters, this can be a sign that your partner wants to end your relationship. Nobody likes to quarrel, unless there is a need to do so.
7. Sex
This point is arguable and probably depends much on a person but still. When you get into a serious relationship with a person you’ve got feelings to, the sex is usually fantastic. When time passes, the emotional level lowers and it can sometimes happen that one of you is not up to it then. But when you feel that your partner doesn’t have any intention to have sex with you or is indifferent in bed, that’s a huge sign that your relationship comes to an end.
8. Silence
Did it happen earlier, when you started dating, that you can speak hours on anything and could always find a theme to speak on. Does it now look like your partner doesn’t want to share anything with you and only answers on direct questions and just in a few words? Did he use to tell you funny jokes which he now never does? You can answer these questions by simply asking your partner some questions that you know for sure present great interest to him and he used to speak a lot on them.
9. Back to the future
Do you speak about your future plans? Say, like, about start living together or about possible future marriage or just about future holidays. Try to ask your partner about future event you’d like to go to, or plan a day off together and watch the reaction. Does he/she easily agree to your plans or are they constantly postponing the decision until it gets too late?
10. “I need to be alone for some time”
Needless to say more. It’s such a HUGE sign that everything is either already over or will be over soon. Some people get too blinded by affection or love to the person that they can’t understand what this statement really means, when it’s almost shouting to you: “It’s over!” Maybe, the situation is yet not that poor and you can bring the good old times back, but bear in mind that this phrase means that your partner doesn’t like this relationship and already has plans to end it.
That’s it. Never underestimate the power of signs your partner shows in your relationship.
11/14/2010
Tips for Finding A Date
"Find a date," your friends say. "Join us for dinner, and bring a date!" This alone is enough to cause many single people to immediately start to panic. The reality is that, if you're looking for dates, you probably just want to find someone special to spend time with, without regard for your pushy friends and their need for additional couples to complete their circle. It's important to think of looking for dates as part of life, part of your everyday routine. You never know -- one of these days it may well turn into something more than just a date.
Finding a date is never easy, but it can be relatively painless, depending on your attitude.
Maybe have a hard time meeting people. Maybe you have a hard time meeting people who are suitable for dating. Maybe you're a single parent with responsibilities at home, or someone who works from home. Perhaps you work strange hours and that's why you never meet anyone to date. Maybe you work with people much younger or older, or perhaps you really don't have finely honed social skills. It could be that you're shy, private, quiet in groups or just unwilling to make the first move.
Whatever the situation, you need to take action! The first thing to do is make sure you exude self confidence. You want to find a date you'll have a great time with, so it helps to make him or her feel special by looking good. Here are some tips on how to accomplish this:
- Give yourself a makeover
- Buy some new clothes and update your image
- Get a new haircut or hairstyle
- Get a full beauty treatment and makeover
- Visit your dentist and get those teeth pearly white
- Get a tan and freshen your skin
- Try out the latest styles and fashions
- Treat yourself to a rejuvenating vacation or break
- Read some new magazines and go shopping
- Join a health club and get into a new workout routine
- Go on a diet and lose a few pounds, if needed
- Take martial arts or self defense classes
- Improve your attitude
The next thing you need to do to find a date is think long and hard about what you really want to achieve and what your expectations are. Get clear about what kind of person you're looking for, although don't be too specific. Keeping your aim as broad as you can will make finding a date easier. You also need to be realistic. Don't make it your goal to date a Hollywood movie star if it's not likely to happen. Keep your feet on the ground and take a long, hard look at your own life before walking into someone else's.
Once you've got that part down, here are a few ways to get started:
Dating Close to Home
Begin by looking in your own neighborhood. Is there anyone in your neighborhood or friend group who is single and awesome? Often, people stay single simply because they aren't being asked out by anyone, not because they themselves are lonely. It's time to do the asking. And yes, that includes the good-looking people in this world. There are lots of local clubs and activity centers where singles are likely to congregate. These are often the best place to introduce yourself to people of the opposite sex in your community. Try to choose something that involves both sexes.
Dating at Work
Some sources claim that 87% of couples first met through work or began dating at work. In general, dating at work or dating someone within your own office environment is generally not a good idea due to the possibilities for problems and the negative implications it can have on your career. Relationship tensions within an office can cause issues with other workers and antagonize work-related disputes.
However, the good news is, most organizations also work with other firms. If your office gets together to socialize with business partners or groups of people you don't work with directly, start going to these events. Try going with coworkers to happy hour or attending after-work social events, too, from bowling to trips to bars and comedy clubs. It's as much about making new friends as it is about finding a date.
If you really don't like your coworkers (or don't have any because, for example, you work from home), you'll need to look for other ways to extend your social circle.
Get Physical
That's right, join a gym. To find a date, you should look your best. After all, if you've set your sights high, doesn't your potential date deserve the best, too? Good, so get down to the local health club and look into a regular workout routine. If already do this, expand your horizons and make sure you're not going to a unisex gym. Try other sports and activities -- from yachting to running to baseball to anything else you haven't tried before. You will make fabulous new friends, as well as possibly finding a date, not to mention feeling and looking much better than if you just sat on the couch munching on potato chips.
Ask Your Friends
The most common complaint among people in their late '20s and '30s is that all their friends are married. If this is true for you, it's time to adapt. As awesome as they might be, your married friends probably will not help you find a date. They tell you they'll try, and they probably mean it, but like attracts like, and there's a good chance most of their friends are married, too. In general, you should not look to any friends to help you find a date, though, because your friends don't necessarily know what kind of person you're looking for. The best advice is to take control and find a date yourself.
This is why you need some single friends. Newsflash: Dating is easier if you hang out with other singles who are also playing the dating game. Even if your married friends are your best buddies in the whole wide world, you need support from other people who know what you're going through. Also, there is safety in large groups. This can also open up new places and venues for you to visit and look for potential dates. You will probably see your confidence level jump as well.
You can find new single friends everywhere: at work, in your neighborhood, at clubs, in your gym … You simply need to make some new friends, then join in. It's not nearly as hard as you think. One thing's for sure: Neither your fantastic new friends, nor your super hot new girlfriend or boyfriend is hiding out in your closet. If you sit at home, you will not find them -- you have to go out and put yourself out there in order to do it. In fact, get started right now. When was the last time you called up your old friends to catch up? Do it now.
Join a Club
Activities really do bring people together and help you make new friends. If you're involved in something like a craft, hobby or sport, then you've already taken the first step toward hanging out with (and possibly dating) like-minded individuals. You have something in common, and it's a great icebreaker. If you're not a member of any club, figure out what you're interested in and decide whether joining a group of some sort centered around this activity might introduce you to others. (Hint: It will!) Always remember: Statistically, there is a good chance that many people just like you are also looking for dates and are joining clubs like these for this very same reason.
Signing up for a Dating Agency
Dating agencies were once associated with embarrassing social stigmas, but not anymore. These days, it's extremely trendy to use an agency to find dates. Dating and finding a date is fun and enjoyable. After all, dating is really just about meeting new people and searching for a special connection. Dating agencies fall into two categories: traditional and Web-based. The first are those traditional dating agencies that help you find a date but charge hundreds of dollars to offer you the chance to meet a few people in their database they have matched you with. They then offer you the chance to meet, if both parties are interested. It's slow and long-winded, but it can work sometimes, although rarely are there guarantees of any kind. The main thing about such dating agencies is that they often specialize in a certain area -- maybe profession or financial, etc. Some may concentrate on the medical or legal profession; others may focus on, say, executives in a certain region.
Internet Dating Sites
The second kind of agency is the professional Internet dating and friendship sites accessible from your home computer. Most often, they are free to sign up for, so you can set up a profile and see who's in their database to find out if you're interested in that kind of people. The beauty of Internet dating is that it makes everyone on any given site instantly accessible, and you can search for people you match with in comfort of your own home without spending a dime. Sniff around, check out people's pics and profiles and take your time finding a date.
It's super important when you're looking for a date to choose a reputable Internet dating site that will provide you with not only personal ads but also a safe and secure environment, as well as advice and articles to help you get ahead. These sites let you communicate anonymously with your matches when you're ready to make contact via on-site email, chat rooms and private instant messaging. Some companies even include voicemail services so you can listen to your prospective date's voice before meeting them.
After paying a small fee, you can communicate with as many members as you like, safely and securely -- and, very soon, you may find that you have arranged not just one but many dates. It's up to you. No more standing in singles bars, being hit on by obnoxious strangers or brainstorming opening lines -- just convenient and relaxed dating, whenever you want!
If you're looking for dates, you should start immediately. It's not always easy to take a step like this if you've been out of the dating arena for years. Think through these tips on meeting dates and start taking initiative. Life is meant for living, but even more importantly, it's meant for sharing with someone special. Start focusing on finding a date, but more importantly, focus on feeling good about yourself and the rest will follow.
Once you've got that part down, here are a few ways to get started:
Dating Close to Home
Begin by looking in your own neighborhood. Is there anyone in your neighborhood or friend group who is single and awesome? Often, people stay single simply because they aren't being asked out by anyone, not because they themselves are lonely. It's time to do the asking. And yes, that includes the good-looking people in this world. There are lots of local clubs and activity centers where singles are likely to congregate. These are often the best place to introduce yourself to people of the opposite sex in your community. Try to choose something that involves both sexes.
Dating at Work
Some sources claim that 87% of couples first met through work or began dating at work. In general, dating at work or dating someone within your own office environment is generally not a good idea due to the possibilities for problems and the negative implications it can have on your career. Relationship tensions within an office can cause issues with other workers and antagonize work-related disputes.
However, the good news is, most organizations also work with other firms. If your office gets together to socialize with business partners or groups of people you don't work with directly, start going to these events. Try going with coworkers to happy hour or attending after-work social events, too, from bowling to trips to bars and comedy clubs. It's as much about making new friends as it is about finding a date.
If you really don't like your coworkers (or don't have any because, for example, you work from home), you'll need to look for other ways to extend your social circle.
Get Physical
That's right, join a gym. To find a date, you should look your best. After all, if you've set your sights high, doesn't your potential date deserve the best, too? Good, so get down to the local health club and look into a regular workout routine. If already do this, expand your horizons and make sure you're not going to a unisex gym. Try other sports and activities -- from yachting to running to baseball to anything else you haven't tried before. You will make fabulous new friends, as well as possibly finding a date, not to mention feeling and looking much better than if you just sat on the couch munching on potato chips.
Ask Your Friends
The most common complaint among people in their late '20s and '30s is that all their friends are married. If this is true for you, it's time to adapt. As awesome as they might be, your married friends probably will not help you find a date. They tell you they'll try, and they probably mean it, but like attracts like, and there's a good chance most of their friends are married, too. In general, you should not look to any friends to help you find a date, though, because your friends don't necessarily know what kind of person you're looking for. The best advice is to take control and find a date yourself.
This is why you need some single friends. Newsflash: Dating is easier if you hang out with other singles who are also playing the dating game. Even if your married friends are your best buddies in the whole wide world, you need support from other people who know what you're going through. Also, there is safety in large groups. This can also open up new places and venues for you to visit and look for potential dates. You will probably see your confidence level jump as well.
You can find new single friends everywhere: at work, in your neighborhood, at clubs, in your gym … You simply need to make some new friends, then join in. It's not nearly as hard as you think. One thing's for sure: Neither your fantastic new friends, nor your super hot new girlfriend or boyfriend is hiding out in your closet. If you sit at home, you will not find them -- you have to go out and put yourself out there in order to do it. In fact, get started right now. When was the last time you called up your old friends to catch up? Do it now.
Join a Club
Activities really do bring people together and help you make new friends. If you're involved in something like a craft, hobby or sport, then you've already taken the first step toward hanging out with (and possibly dating) like-minded individuals. You have something in common, and it's a great icebreaker. If you're not a member of any club, figure out what you're interested in and decide whether joining a group of some sort centered around this activity might introduce you to others. (Hint: It will!) Always remember: Statistically, there is a good chance that many people just like you are also looking for dates and are joining clubs like these for this very same reason.
Signing up for a Dating Agency
Dating agencies were once associated with embarrassing social stigmas, but not anymore. These days, it's extremely trendy to use an agency to find dates. Dating and finding a date is fun and enjoyable. After all, dating is really just about meeting new people and searching for a special connection. Dating agencies fall into two categories: traditional and Web-based. The first are those traditional dating agencies that help you find a date but charge hundreds of dollars to offer you the chance to meet a few people in their database they have matched you with. They then offer you the chance to meet, if both parties are interested. It's slow and long-winded, but it can work sometimes, although rarely are there guarantees of any kind. The main thing about such dating agencies is that they often specialize in a certain area -- maybe profession or financial, etc. Some may concentrate on the medical or legal profession; others may focus on, say, executives in a certain region.
Internet Dating Sites
The second kind of agency is the professional Internet dating and friendship sites accessible from your home computer. Most often, they are free to sign up for, so you can set up a profile and see who's in their database to find out if you're interested in that kind of people. The beauty of Internet dating is that it makes everyone on any given site instantly accessible, and you can search for people you match with in comfort of your own home without spending a dime. Sniff around, check out people's pics and profiles and take your time finding a date.
It's super important when you're looking for a date to choose a reputable Internet dating site that will provide you with not only personal ads but also a safe and secure environment, as well as advice and articles to help you get ahead. These sites let you communicate anonymously with your matches when you're ready to make contact via on-site email, chat rooms and private instant messaging. Some companies even include voicemail services so you can listen to your prospective date's voice before meeting them.
After paying a small fee, you can communicate with as many members as you like, safely and securely -- and, very soon, you may find that you have arranged not just one but many dates. It's up to you. No more standing in singles bars, being hit on by obnoxious strangers or brainstorming opening lines -- just convenient and relaxed dating, whenever you want!
If you're looking for dates, you should start immediately. It's not always easy to take a step like this if you've been out of the dating arena for years. Think through these tips on meeting dates and start taking initiative. Life is meant for living, but even more importantly, it's meant for sharing with someone special. Start focusing on finding a date, but more importantly, focus on feeling good about yourself and the rest will follow.
11/13/2010
Advice for Finding the Perfect Companion or the Love of Your Life
People date for a variety of reasons. Some are looking for short-term companionship, while others are looking for a mate for life. Know what you want.Relationships can be tricky. When couples get together, they often assume the other person is looking for the same thing. Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case.
As you date, you need to evaluate specific aspects of the relationship to see if it matches your dating goals. View each of your first few dates with the same person in a similar way to a job interview.
Temporary Companion or Permanent Possibility
If you are looking for someone to pass the time with and not have any lasting ties, that’s fine. However, if the other person starts humming the “Wedding March” or talks about where you’ll be as a couple years from now, it’s time to have a serious talk.
Instead of closing the door to the relationship deepening, let the other person know you’re not ready for a serious commitment at the present time. If this is a problem, it allows him to back away and find someone who is more suited to what he’s looking for. You may discover that he wants the same thing you want, and he was only acting out of his perception of your expectations.
Respect Yourself
A dating relationship is only as good as each person’s self-respect. If a woman doesn’t feel that she deserves happiness, she’ll find someone who treats her badly. A man who doesn’t understand his value as a boyfriend may settle for someone he’s not crazy about.
Kindness includes being good to yourself and expecting the same from others.
You don’t need to do anything out of desperation. Be patient and allow the relationship to take shape naturally.
If the other person treats you in a disrespectful manner, speak up and discuss what bothers you.
Respect the Other Person
If you have respect for the other person, she is more likely to respect you in return. Be willing to invest effort in the relationship because you care and want to provide a seamless shield around the two of you.
How to show respect:
Ask the other person’s opinion on things that matter.
Listen attentively when the other person needs to talk.
Be on time for dates. If this is ever a problem, call and explain.
Avoid being defensive.
Take responsibility for mistakes.
Don’t be afraid to apologize when you’re wrong.
Accept sincere apologies from the other person.
Never belittle the other person.
Similar Values
One of the biggest problem areas for many couples is based on different values. This can involve a variety of issues – from religious faith to how money is perceived. Although some couples with different values can be successful, the chances are high that there will be serious problems in the relationship. After the first couple of dates, you should have an idea of the other person’s values. If you make it past the third date, congratulations are in order. Now it’s time to talk about your values and ask questions.
What to discuss during the dating process:
Talk about religious beliefs and how they play a part in the person’s life.
Find out the other person’s view of money. Is she a spender or a saver? Does he like to have a nest egg, or live for today and worry about tomorrow later?
Discuss the importance of career and how much time it will take from the relationship.
Talk about how much time she expects to spend with you. Some couples enjoy spending all their time together, while others like to slip away from the other person for a while.
Being half of a couple can be rewarding if you have a healthy relationship. It’s important to know where you stand with the other person – if you’re together for companionship or if the relationship is heading toward a lifetime commitment. The healthiest unions between two people also involve a healthy dose of self-respect, respect for the other person and values that don’t conflict.
11/12/2010
Top 10 Conversation Starters
Nothing can be more disastrous on a date than running headfirst into the proverbial awkward silence. When there's nothing to talk about, there's absolutely no reason to date. People can sit down and bore themselves - they don't need a partner to help out with this.
Not only will the silence ruin your current date or relationship, but it may also leave you scarred with the memory, thus allowing anxiety to settle in and force everything to become awkward. Simply put, not finding the right conversation material can cripple your chances at a relationship.
To help combat this, let's go over ten of the top conversation starters out there. They're all easy, nonintrusive and will help to jumpstart the chat.
One: Talk about Not Talking
Allude to the potential awkwardness. This is good for a laugh and may actually ignite the chatting flame.
Two: Talk about Your Day
Coming across self-centered and like a blowhard is never a good idea, but simply giving some highs and lows of your day could be amusing or, at the least, intriguing.
Three: Give a Compliment and Walk Away...
Some daters, especially guys, go overboard on this. Giving one nice compliment is a good way to get a smile and ease into further conversation. Harping on about how hot someone is comes across like a stalker.
Four: Be the "Back" in Back-and-Forth
When your date says something, respond in kind with something related. Help the chat along by engaging in the topic and not trying to change the atmosphere.
Five: Total Recall
Hopefully you paid attention to the conversation that got you this date in the first place. You can always bring up a previous topic/discussion that has worked.
Six: Be a Reporter
Only ask questions that require more than a one-word answer. Don't ask how someone is. Instead, ask "So, how did things go with_____?" But be careful - you don't want to come across as a detective.
Seven: Play Captain Obvious
Look around and find something to bring up that's obvious. Talk about the place you're in, the car you're driving, the movie you just watched, etc.
Eight: Use Your Calendar
If it's close to a holiday or some sort of event, bring it up in a casual way and make it intriguing. Talking about what you got your brother for his birthday might be a great opening.
Nine: The Set-Up
Guys or girls - ask your date for advice, some help with a problem. Make them feel useful, smart and actually needed.
Ten: Humor Never Hurt
If you can find a tactful, clean joke that's not offensive, set the stage and introduce some humor into the conversation.
11/11/2010
How To Be Funny Around Girls
Here are some tips on how to be funny around women.
1) Have a positive attitude and energy
The first thing you should do is to have a positive attitude
and give off good energy. I personally know many guys
who THINK they are really witty but are avoided by everyone
because they are so cynical and negative.
You can’t be funny unless you are warm, positive, and energetic.
People won’t like you much if you’re always negative, period!
2) Loosen up and relax
Try to loosen up and relax like you are among your best friends.
Everyone is a bit funny when they are relaxed and among friends.
3) Don’t be desperate or try to impress
Your jokes will seem a bit “off” if you are too desperate or try
too hard to impress a girl. The more you try to impress, the more
your body will tense up and the less funny you will be. You’ll
probably end up looking like a desperate guy who’s trying too hard.
4) Play along when she teases you
Women will often tease you once they are comfortable enough to
joke around. Unfortunately, many guys will get defensive and ruin
the rapport as a result. Don’t make the same mistake.
For example, if a woman laughs and calls you a nerd, don’t get
defensive and start telling her all the cool things you do.
Instead, laugh WITH her and proudly tell her you are the king of
all nerds. Then start doing your best nerd imitation.
5) Listen to what she’s saying and use it as material
Instead of reciting lame jokes, pay attention to what a
girl is saying and use her own lines as material. Tease
her about little things. Agree with her and use imitations
to make fun of the things she dislikes. Come up with some
deliberate misinterpretation or misunderstanding of a
situation. Stay in the moment and just focus on having a
great time.
6) Take up a character and “act” out the unexpected
Speaking of of imitations, it’s a great way to be funny. By
taking up a character, you can be funny without seeming
unnatural. You will be able to stretch the boundaries without
feeling like you’re not “being yourself”. After all, you’re
just imitating someone.
7) Be sarcastic…but not too much
Girls often enjoy humor that is just a LITTLE bit sarcastic.
It shows you have the guts and backbone to not care about
what other people think. However, there is a fine line
between being just a bit sarcastic and being downright
cynical. Make sure you don’t cross the line. (It will take
practice!)
It shows you have the guts and backbone to not care about
what other people think. However, there is a fine line
between being just a bit sarcastic and being downright
cynical. Make sure you don’t cross the line. (It will take
practice!)
8) Watch lots of comedies
A good way to learn how to be funny is by modeling yourself
after funny people. Watch plenty of comedy movies and
television shows. Observe what’s funny or what’s just
plain terrible. Notice how many of the funniest scenes are not
about the jokes but about particular situations.
9) Make serious situations fun
One thing you will learn from watching comedies is that it is
often the situations, not just the lines, that make the jokes
funny. The jokes are merely are a reflection of how the
characters react to the situation.
With that kept in mind, think about how you can turn serious
situations into funny situations whenever it’s appropriate.
It’s much funnier to point out something unexpectingly funny
about a certain situation than to recite some lame joke out
of a jokes book!
10) Uses pauses wisely
Remember the old rule in stand-up comedy: use pauses wisely!
Putting in a pause at the right moment will create a greater impact
for the punch line!
11) Don’t let a joke get old
Something is funny the first or second time, but not the third.
Make sure you don’t overuse a joke or gag to a point where it’s
not funny naymore.
12) Recover well
Lastly, if you make a mistake such as blowing a joke, recover
IMMEDIATELY by laughing it off and saying something like, “That
just came off wrong.” By acknowledging it as a bad joke, people
will laugh with you and let you off the hook. But if you don’t
allow for that closure, then a bad impression of you may form in
their mind.
11/10/2010
How To Use Body Language To Your Advantage When Dating
Attract the man or woman you want by sending out signals
This is the language where you don't need any words. Women have been doing it for hundreds of years to attract the man they want. Becoming fluent in body language will ensure that you will be skilled in attracting the right man and sending the get lost signal to the wrong man.
Eyeing Up the Prize
The more eye contact you establish with the target the better. Start with some sidelong glances. Then, begin with direct eye contact. Once he turns to meet your gaze, immediately lower your eyes and smile to yourself. This will tell him that you were watching him and are embarrassed that he caught you -- a sure sign of interest. Next, be bold and try holding his stare and flash a smile.
If there is a man that is giving you the eye and you are not interested, look away from him and don't look back at him again. While having a conversation, looking at the ceiling and around the room also shows a definite lack of interest.
First Impressions Count
You leave your home ready to go to a party when you spot your gorgeous neighbor and he doesn't give you a second glance. Why? Because you aren't dressed your best. When you enter a room, most people look to see who has come in. This is when you have to make an impression. Looking your best will make you feel your best. So make sure that before you leave your front door, look your best. You never know. You just might just attract the attention of that gorgeous neighbor.
The Hand Job (no, not what you are thinking!)
Even without direct contact, your hands can send very powerful messages. There are a number of ways to convey that you want to get to know someone. Keeping your hands unclenched shows you're open to him. Using your hands to caress objects, such as the rim of your glass, locks of your hair, or the sleeve of your blouse in a rhythmic (as opposed to fidgety) manner, can be a sensual act. And for the brave, try picking fluff off his jacket, touching him to punctuate a point, or using the "accidental touch" when reaching for the salt.
Hands jammed in pockets, cleaning eyeglasses or balled in tight fists are all bad signs. Finger tapping, drumming, pointing or wagging are also signals to move on.
Stand Out
Your posture is one of the most telling signals you transmit. An open posture is evidence of an open person. Turning your body toward the man you're conversing with, keeping your feet flat on the floor and leaning forward are actions that show interest. Also, slightly tilting your head, crossing and uncrossing your legs and thrusting your chest forward give the message that you are interested.
Crossing your arms, holding a drink high in front of you, turning your body away or resting your feet on their toes will tell a person you are not interested.
A Few Extra Tips
Hopefully by now you have an attack plan for when it's time to get down and dirty, or when it's best just to wave the white flag. Here are just a few more tips when trying to perfect your body language skills:
- You'll know things are going really well when you begin "mirroring" one another's body language and gestures.
- Don't tease him by offering more than you plan to follow through with. This can lead to very ugly circumstances.
- Chain smoking, being extremely intoxicated, or having eyes only for your plate of food will not put you in the best standingfor the body language game.
- If you try your hand at it, and he's not responding, abort the mission immediately.
- Following him around all night will only serve in making you look needy and desperate.
And finally, if all else fails, buy yourself a T-shirt that reads, "Looking for Love."
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